Tact is telling the truth kindly, considerate of how your words affect others’ feelings. Think before you speak, knowing what is better left unsaid. When you are tactful, others find it easier to hear what you have to say. Tact builds bridges.
How amazing would it be to stand so firmly in your truth that you were not swayed by the words or harshness of other people. To be so grounded that you were able to find dignity and tact in every response- Can you imagine how relationships would function if people decided to be authentic and real- without a need to cover up details or to tell little white lies? How awesome would it be to be able to have a difference of opinion or a different opinion all together and to be able to have a mutual and respectful conversation with understanding and tact. For me- the ongoing practice of choosing to be honest and real with tact is definitely something I continue to work on.
I remember texting a question to a family member- I had inquired about a piece of equipment that had been stored at one of my rental locations for over two years. The equipment had become weathered, rusty and unusable and my question was to ask if the owner to make some calls about having the equipment removed. There was no deadline, no expectation and no attitude- it was what I thought was a very thoughtful way approach the question.
What I received in return was not what I had expected- the reply was an attack; it was verbally abusive, made accusations about me and my character and completely caught me off guard. In that moment, I completely forgot about tact – I did not seek to understand first and I reacted instead of responding.
What I realized in hindsight is that I missed an opportunity. The opportunity is to use this human experience to address every perceived challenge with an empowered question instead of reacting to the emotional swings, outbursts and tendencies of other people. We are each incredible, beautiful, amazing beings- given the absolute blessing of free will, dominion over our thoughts, to be creators of our own reality and to make individual choices moment by moment and breath by breath. It’s pretty incredible when you think of it and even more profound when contemplating the idea of having the ability to respond (responsibility) to everything in direct relationship to how we are anchored.
I recognize that I missed an opportunity and that I am really working on staying anchored through meditation and prayer, through affirmations and through my writings and gratitude practice. It’s a conscious practice and for me, being anchored means choosing love over fear, deciding to have peace instead of having to be right and to use kindness and tact to build bridges in my relationships.