I accept full and total responsibility for my life,
What does that even mean to accept full and total responsibility for my life? First of all, it means that everybody is off the hook. Parents that were physically or emotionally disconnected or unavailable, a neighbor who may have said or done things that violated you and your space, a wife who cheated, a husband who stole, a boyfriend that was a batterer, a best friend who lied, a neighbor who was slanderous, kids that were disrespectful, deceitful or drug induced- the list goes on and on as it always has and probably always will. Maybe you were the perpetrator and it was you who did the violating? Either way, it’s in the past.
Today though, everyone is off the hook. No one is responsible for my success or failure and I consciously choose today to take responsibility for my life. No more excuses, no more should have’s, no more looking back at the past or defining myself or my future from events that may or may not have been out of my control. No more operating from a place of fear, scarcity, lack, regret or shame.
Today I accept full and total responsibility for my life and that means I will draw a line the sand- and this line in the sand is not to be taken lightly. It is not a joke or a game, seriously- we cannot be the violator or the victim and continue to be committed to the same behaviors, language, people and circumstances and say that we are ready to create new and different results in our lives. It just doesn’t work that way.
It’s time to ask different questions- instead of Why me? Why did this happen? How can I ever get over this? It’s time to change the dialogue, the questions are What is alive in me? What is wanting to be birthed. Where can I show up and make a difference? How is my life attempting to show me that it’s time for change?
What are you willing to give up, stop doing or forgive so that you can release the chains of your own bondage? We all know the saying that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results and yet what are you doing different?
I will not focus on things I could not or would not control and I pay close attention to the desires of my heart. What is calling me? What do I miss doing? Where am I ready to grow, expand and discover? It is only in this exploration of my inner self that I can begin to move away from patterns, behaviors and a protective personality that wants to keep me in the same little box that I’ve always been in.
The garden is an amazing analogy for the results in our lives. If you’ve ever planted a garden you know that a tomato seed will not produce corn- just as the seeds of our negative thoughts and words will not produce positive results. Once seeds are planted, we must also tend to the garden with nutrients; sunlight, water and maybe even miracle grow- AND we must tend on a daily basis or the weeds will choke the life right out of the garden. We must also be patient- because the day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit. So, what in your life is representative of the weeds, and who or what must be removed? Maybe the soil of your life’s garden needs to be completely tilled and turned over so that something new might grow? You cannot put poison in, on or around your garden and expect to have a healthy, vibrant and producing harvest. It just doesn’t work that way.
I will draw a line in the sand today and I will not feel fearful, anxious or afraid – I choose this day to let go of thought processes, patterns and people that don’t align with the highest vision for my life. Today I am nurturing the garden of my life and I am committed to producing positive results because I am taking full and total responsibility for my life.