I will love, honor and nurture myself.
What an amazing invitation; to be able to love, honor and nurture myself. What are all the ways that I will express this to myself? They say that we cannot love another until we come to love and accept ourselves. This is such a profound statement- the very thing that I wish to have, to be loved and accepted- I must give to myself first and then give it away. It is here in this place of vulnerability and authenticity where I really begin to “feel” the transformation.
That I could see and love you regardless of what you’ve done, or where you’ve been or what mistakes you’ve made. I see into the eyes of your soul, I see the pain of regret and the hope of acceptance and I love you because I see myself in you. So, I choose to love and forgive myself so that I can love and forgive you.
Many times, it is in our deepest pain and regret that we begin to loosen the chains of judgement and bondage. We may have been self-righteous, impatient, arrogant or have created unrealistic expectations. In any case, once we make a decision to “Be The One” there are no more excuses. I love and accept myself right where I am and I love and accept you right where you are- this is not to say that I don’t want more, better or different for you- I just recognize that is a personal journey that you will have with yourself.
There is a term called “self-referral” which means when looking for acceptance and approval, I refer to myself, in other words I look within for that guidance. This is the opposite of “object-referral” which is to look outside of myself, in another or for approval. When I operate from “Self-Referral”, I don’t need someone else to make sure that Im ok. I look to myself- I recognize and know that I am enough and that I have everything I need within me.
I honor myself by holding the high watch- I keep my word, I have a standard of integrity and I am true to myself. I live with principles and values. I move daily towards my goals and dreams and I push myself to be the best version of myself that I can be.
I remember that that I am love and that I am made in the image of love. I remember that; love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preservers. Love never fails.
I practice being a loving person and seeing others as loving people as well.
As I move through this week I consider love an elixir for everything I encounter. I make it a priority to nurture myself with spending time outdoors in nature and by making time to treat myself to getting pampered in the ways that feel special to me. I connect with purpose, desiring always to be honest, authentic and loving. I make a personal devotion to and daily practice to love, honor and nurture myself.
I get realigned with my Spiritual practices and I stay committed to taking care of me.
**Regarding Spiritual practices- if you do not have a Spiritual home, church, place or group of people who have similar beliefs about God, Love and Contribution (whatever that means for you) the opportunity is to find one. Making time to share and explore this part of ourselves is essential. When we have a Spiritual groundedness, when we anchor to deeper truth about ourselves- we are less likely to look outward for permission to grow or approval to be ourselves.