Week 20

I don’t assume anything

What does life look like when I don’t assume anything? I don’t make up stories about what things mean. It means that my communication is impeccable, or at least I’m making an effort and that I seek first to understand rather than to role play things out in my mind. How often do we do that?

We’re feeling good about life and our relationships and then someone behaves in a certain way and we take it to the worst case sinearo. We think about it so much that we elaborate on every horrible detail and gather evidence of the past to support a point of view and thought process that is entirely made up. We go into fight
mode and we bring a negative energy to the other person and begin to create a reality that matches our negativity. We can even go so far as to single ourselves out; to think that we don’t matter and that we
don’t belong meanwhile others have no clue what is going on inside because we “play the role” we act as though everything is ok when in fact we feel anger, depression, anxiety, jealousy and pain all the while showing a smile. I assume I don’t matter, that I’m not enough, that I don’t belong and that what I have to contribute means nothing when that’s not the truth at all. What does life look like when Im not assuming the worst?

What if I were able to keep one eye on the inside and just notice where I am in my body- interestingly enough when we decide to be led by the heart and not our minds our perspective begins to shift. I am able to let someone else be who they are and allow them to have their experience without thinking it has anything to do with me. How do we begin to change a pattern, a thought process and behavior that has been running on auto-pilot our whole lives?

It’s about tuning in, about making a conscious choice to pay attention to where I am operating from. Am I in my head making things up? Do I have all of the facts? Am I willing to see the situation from another perspective? We have an amazing amount of freedom to choose how we will see our world and what we will make of our stories-and interestingly enough, our stories will set the stage for all that we experience in our life.

What if we made a decision to consciously pay attention to the times when we are angry, upset and assuming? What if we took a moment to stop, breathe and ground from a different place? What if our perspective was creating our reality and all we had to do was change our perspective? We’ve been running on auto-pilot for a long, thinking that “it’s just the way things are” when in fact it’s the way it is because we are 100% responsible for our relationships and our results and if we are not satisfied with our current state of affairs- the only place that we can go that will have a lasting effect is within…

Today I start with me, I commit to notice how I am reacting, responding and showing up in general. I will pay attention to the voices in my head and notice if it is a voice of acceptance, love and possibility or if it is one of judgement, fear and contradiction. Today I choose not to assume anything.

Consciously Creating
My Life

If you’re going to make up a story, it might as well be a good one…

Reflection Opportunity

Are there patterns in my life that keep showing up? This week commit to paying attention to the stories that are made up. How often do you write a script about other people, when the reality is that it is your own story that you are making up and not the truth. What are the voices and messages in your mind telling you? Keep a journal this week and just notice (without judgement) where you are operating from. 

 

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Kathy Sparrow

Writer, Author &
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Kathy is passionate about creating space for individuals to discover their authentic presence, embrace change with a sense of adventure, and express themselves in all areas of life with confidence, awareness, and courage – through writing, fly fishing, and intentional conversation.

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Stories Hold Power ~ Your Story is Important

The Legacy Keeper is the Keeper of Knowledge, hard won knowledge paid for through the experiences of life. The good times and those challenging ones are all part of the human experience–all make us who we are today and weave the story of our legacy. Recording the lessons of triumph and lessons of loss and pain–and capturing the gold that can be mined from them–is the mission of the Legacy Keeper.
This is the priceless gift we can leave to future generations.
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