Week 22

I accept full and total
responsibility for my relationships

Relationships give us the perfect opportunity for learning so much about ourselves, if we are willing to authentically explore this area of our lives and ourselves, we will come to learn where we are weak and
vulnerable, where we are overbearing and impulsive, where we are loving and nurturing, where we withhold and where we are generous. An intimate relationship that has a foundation of trust and respect and one that is honest and real-will be one of the greatest experiences we will ever have.

Rest assure that we will feel every emotion in our relationships, the high’s and the low’s, right and wrong, the good the bad and the ugly– the full spectrum. The gift of a relationship that can withstand the full experience of obstacles, adversity, challenge and forgiveness is an intimacy with a depth of love that not everyone experiences.

You see, we are so quick to call the game. So quick to judge and think that everything must look a particular way, some think that it’s all black and white and the truth is that it’s not really anything until we add our story to it, until we name it judge it or give meaning to it. Our perspective, our outlook and our thought process will determine how deep we can love, how easily we can accept, how often we will be vulnerable and how much of an impact we will have in our own lives and in the lives of others. If our perspective is old and outdated, if it belongs to someone else or if we are on auto-pilot most of our lives, it’s almost certain that we will have a victim perspective and feel like life is happening to us and that we don’t have much or any control of the circumstances of our lives. 

The flip side of that is 100% responsibility. I will choose to look within, I will pay attention to the things, people and words that “trigger” me because I understand that this is where my own healing will take place- and there really is no crystal ball, magic pill or prescription that will do the work for me. In fact, it’s a life-long process of letting go. Letting go of the idea that someone else is responsible for my happiness or success, letting go of the idea that that relationships must look a certain way, letting go of the idea that he or she must act or be a certain way in order for me to be ok.

In this process of going inward, we do need to recognize that birds of a feather flock together and that not everyone is equally yoked, in other words; we are all in different levels of understanding, experience and results AND if I am ready to reach new heights in my personal and professional relationships, I must be willing to take an inventory of those who are currently in my life. Who are the ones that lift me up and see me bigger than I see myself? Who is holding me accountable? Who doesn’t accept my excuses and calls me on my BS? Who are those who make excuses for me? Who encourage me in the opposite direction of my dreams and desires. Not good, bad, right or wrong- just an inventory.

It is one thing to be oblivious to it, and it is another to take 100% responsibility and to consciously choose who I will surround myself with. And what about the relationship I have with myself? Where am I arguing for my own limitations? Where in my life am I getting out of the box and being uncomfortable? Growth and expansion does not happen in our comfort zone.

Today I choose to take an inventory of my relationships. How will I express my love and gratitude to those I want to have a closer relationship with? Who will be my fox hole buddy and hold me accountable? What will I do for myself; for my own health and wellbeing? Where will I contribute and how will I make a difference? I am committed to creating happy, healthy and harmonious relationships in my life. I will focus on being the very best version of me and allow grace to bring new and supportive relationships into my life.

Consciously Creating
My Life

Relationships give us the opportunity to really work on ourselves- individually and collectively. To experience joy and intimacy, to heal hurts, to recognize outdated or unhealthy perceptions, to practice patience and understanding, and of course so much more. 

The question is- are you allowing them to?

Reflection Opportunity

There is a huge opportunity to recognize if you are in a relationship or partnership (personal or business) where you may have an idea that it is your responsibility to manage the happiness or outcomes of others.  Are you taking away the opportunity for someone else to show up? Shared responsibility requires an increased level of communication, authenticity, accountability and vulnerability. 

Where will you allow yourself to grow in your relationships? Are you aware of when you are triggered? Are you able to recognize if it’s old programming? Ultimately everything will come up to be healed and we cannot address people and conversations with the same mentality or consciousness if we desire to create new and/or different results in our relationships. 

How would taking a pause impact your experience? What would change in your relationship(s) if you decided to be the one to shift?

Please Welcome: Rodd & Jessica Jaramillo

The Presario Group



The Presario Group’s mission is to Facilitate a Clear Path to your Vision in Business and Life.

Rod & Jessica Jaramillo

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The Presario Group

Rodd and Jessica are committed to growth on every level. In addition to the coaching and Enneagram programs, they also offer couples workshops and retreats. 

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