Week 34

I will love honor
and nurture myself

What an amazing invitation—to be able to love, honor, and nurture myself. What are all the ways that I will express this to myself? They say that we cannot love another until we come to love and accept ourselves. This is such a profound statement—the very thing that I wish to have, to be loved and accepted. I must give to myself first and then give it away. It is here in this place of vulnerability and authenticity where I really begin to “feel” the transformation.

This is the place where I could see and love you regardless of what you’ve done, or where you’ve been or what mistakes you’ve made. I see into the eyes of your soul, I see the pain of regret and the hope of acceptance, and I love you because I see myself in you. So, I choose to love and forgive myself so that I can love and forgive you.

Many times, it is in our deepest pain and regret that we begin to loosen the chains of judgment and bondage. We may have been self-righteous, impatient, arrogant, or have created unrealistic expectations. In any case, once we make a decision to “Be the One,” there are no more excuses. I love and accept myself right where I am, and I love and accept you right where you are. This is not to say that I don’t want more, better, or different for you. I just recognize that is a personal journey that you will have with yourself.

There is a term called “self-referral” which means when looking for acceptance and approval, I refer to myself; in other words, I look within for that guidance. This is the opposite of “object-referral” which is to look outside of myself, or in another, for approval. When I operate from “self-referral,” I don’t need someone else to make sure that I’m ok. I look to myself. I recognize and know that I am enough and that I have everything I need within me.

I honor myself by holding the high watch. I keep my word, I have a standard of integrity, and I am true to myself. I live with principles and values. I move daily towards my goals and dreams, and I push myself to be the best version of myself that I can be.

I remember that that I am love and that I am made in the image of love. I remember that love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

I practice being a loving person and seeing others as loving people as well. I consider how love could be an elixir for everything I encounter. I make it a priority to nurture myself with spending time outdoors in nature and by making time to treat myself to getting pampered in the ways that feel special to me. I connect with purpose, desiring always to be honest, authentic, and loving. I make a personal devotion to and daily practice to love, honor, and nurture myself. I get realigned with my Spiritual practices, and I stay committed to taking care of me.

Regarding Spiritual practices: if you do not have a spiritual home, church, place, or group of people who have similar beliefs about God, Love, and Contribution (whatever that means for you), the opportunity is to find one. Making time to share and explore this part of ourselves is essential. When we have a Spiritual groundedness, and when we anchor to deeper truth about ourselves, we are less likely to look outward for permission to grow or approval to be ourselves.

Consciously Creating
My Life

As we continue to 

look in the mirror for our answers- 

we discover what is 

needed to love, honor and 

nurture ourselves even more. 

What does me taking care of me

look like today?

Reflection Opportunity

It is a critical piece of self awareness to be able to look at or into a situation and say “I allowed that”. When I love, honor and nurture myself I still need to be able to take responsibility and accountability for the part that I have played or continue to play- good, bad, right or wrong. 

When I love myself, I set a standard for my life designed by me and I am not looking for anyone else to validate my worth. I honor myself by not giving myself away to people, places or circumstances that devalue me and I nurture myself by staying in relationships that mirror back to me love, generosity, patience, respect, kindness and trust. 

What lessons am I learning? What within me still needs to be loved and refined? How can I use this week to take better care of myself? What does me taking care of me look like today?

Please Welcome: Kathy Sparrow

Take Flight

with the Sparrow

Are you afraid of the “C” word?

Kathy Sparrow

Writer, Author &
Keynote Speaker

Kathy is passionate about creating space for individuals to discover their authentic presence, embrace change with a sense of adventure, and express themselves in all areas of life with confidence, awareness, and courage – through writing, fly fishing, and intentional conversation.

An Invitation

Stories Hold Power ~ Your Story is Important

The Legacy Keeper is the Keeper of Knowledge, hard won knowledge paid for through the experiences of life. The good times and those challenging ones are all part of the human experience–all make us who we are today and weave the story of our legacy. Recording the lessons of triumph and lessons of loss and pain–and capturing the gold that can be mined from them–is the mission of the Legacy Keeper.
This is the priceless gift we can leave to future generations.
Our legacy–and Theirs.